Posted on February 13 2018
February is a month that is well-known to be about love. Usually though, this love is about how we romantically feel about others. Instead of making this month only about the love you have for other people in your life, why not make it about the love that you should have for yourself? Loving ourselves is often one of the hardest things to do. I'm sure you've heard the saying, “We’re are our own worst critic”. It's often very true. Loving yourself though, is so important for our emotional well-being as well as physical. If you're not sure where to start when it comes to showing yourself how important you are to yourself, here are my tips on learning to love yourself more, starting today.
Don't accept criticism from yourself- The world is more than willing to be critical of you. There is no reason to be overly-critical of yourself. In fact, being overly critical of oneself can be a form of self-hatred. Instead, find ways to accept your faults end quickly move on. Once you have accepted them, then you can devise a way to change them if you feel you need to. Stop looking in the mirror and finding everything that you think is wrong. Remember, you're perfect the way you are.
Ask for help when you need it- I think a lot of times we tend to think that asking for help means that were weak. This just simply isn't true. Asking for help when you need it is a way of loving yourself because you are allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Vulnerability is often where change comes from and it is where humbleness lives. Learning to be humble can help teach you to love yourself more.
Lovingly release old, negative habits one at a time- We all have negative thought patterns and habits. They aren't necessarily bad, because they were developed within us to cope with something. Sometimes that something was trauma, and other times it was just something you weren't willing to face yet. This is a natural reaction and there's nothing wrong with you. Help yourself create new loving habits by releasing each old one, one at a time.
Love yourself right now, not where you “should be”- Don't wait to start loving yourself until you are where you think you need to be to do so. This means you shouldn't wait until you're richer, older, thinner, or more successful. Loving yourself is a journey and part of that journey is loving each part of it.
Practice self-care- Self-care is one thing that many people neglect. Unfortunately, neglecting self-care can lead to not spending enough time loving yourself. It's hard to love something you don't care for. Make it a point to spend some time practicing self-care. Self-care will look different depending on who you are but for most people it includes things like pampering yourself, making sure you get enough exercise, making time for social fun, or even finding ways to spend time by yourself decompressing.
Learn to be silly with yourself- Nurture your inner child. Children are often revered as being so wonderful to be around because they don't have all the baggage us adults do. They can be silly and not worry about what other people think of that. Spend some time being silly with yourself.
Remember that what others think of you is none of your business- It's something we tell children all the time but it's often hard for us to follow as adults, too. Stop caring so much about what other people think of you. Be assertive with yourself and make decisions with confidence.
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